How To Use DISGUST To Motivate Yourself!

The other day I had a coworker approach me. The conversation went along the lines of not having the motivation to Prioritize Physical Activity. Yes, the subject of Priortizing Physical Activity goes beyond these posts, it permeates my every day life. Often times its my relatives making similar comments or asking the same questions. This dates back to my younger years. So its not unusual for me to have these types of conversations outside of ACTIVE-DAD.com

To frame this conversation, the focus of the discussion was motivation. My colleague was seeking my help in motivating them to Prioritizing Physical Activity. They stated they needed me to help motivate them. In my mind I was thinking, if you need me to motivate you, then you haven’t hit the right level of disgust yet. I emphasize the “in my mind” part. An unfiltered conversation of this nature may not go well in the workplace, for obvious reasons.

Also in my mind was a quote from James Allen, “A strong man cannot help a weaker unless that weaker is willing to be helped, and even then the weak man must become strong of himself; he must, by his own efforts, develop the strength which he admiers in another. None but himself can alter his condition.”

Use Disgust as a tool

Now I know some Body PositiviERs may not agree, but there is a rock bottom for some of us. We would all like to think that we are just fantastic just the way we are, but from a health perspective, that may not be your truth.

Check out “Can You Promote Body Positivity AND Self Improvement?“.

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Spring ALWAYS Follows Winter. But Winters Are For Suckas!

Every year, without fail, the seasons change. Summer, fall, after winter then comes spring. Spring ALWAYS follows winter. This pattern isn’t going to change.

There are certain things in life that one man cannot change. How much control do you have over the changing of the seasons? Absolutely none. You can’t change the seasons. You’re just a spectator merely watching as things happen around you.

You can either be The Enthused Participant, The Punching Bag or the ACTIVE-DAD. Either way, it’s going to happen.

“Better is not something you wish; It’s something you become.”

Jim Rohn
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Because I’m FAT and LAZY.

I have heard this more times than I care to count. Each time I hear it, I cringe, internally. Maybe you have even uttered this once or twice. Possibly trying to be funny, using humor to soften the blow of the truth. “Because I’m FAT and LAZY”. It is one thing to admit your shortcomings and own up to them, it’s another to find comfort in them.

Consider the tone and context of this conversation:

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How Low Has Complacency Set Your Bar?

You have kept the bar pretty low. Complacency has done that to you. Your bar wasn’t always set this low. It happened over time. It is the result of you repeatedly settling for whatever you felt like at that moment. You must own it.

Of course, you don’t deserve ALL the credit. Those around you helped you along the way too. They would comfort you saying, “that’s ok” or asking, “why are you trying so hard?”.  They thought they were being good friends, good peoples. Heck, you were giving them an excuse not to try harder too.

Admittedly, sometimes you need that soft-landing place, some comforting. But only occasionally, otherwise you become as fluffy as a pillow, like now. This sounds vivid and eerily familiar to your life, it’s because I have been there.

RAISE IT UP!

How easy would it be to raise the bar, just ever so slightly? I’m not talking about an all-out overhaul. Not one of those bootcamps that you go to for three to five days that blasts your body, leaving you beat up and hurting, never to return for another boot camp for two weeks or longer. I’m talking one small step for mankind, one giant leap….errrr, scratch that. But seriously, one small step. Followed by another. And another. Until you have reached one mile, two miles, three, etc.

Time For A Challenge

When is the last time you challenged yourself? Just enough to be break out of the normal routine.

I’ve been introduced to Darren Hardy and his phenomenal message about building good habits through consistency. That should sound familiar to you from any of the ACTIVE-DAD material (check out The Physical Activity Snowball Effect). But this isn’t about me, or ACTIVE-DAD, this is about YOU!

For the second year in a row, Darren Hardy has started the 90 Day Summer Raven Run Challenge. Run/walk ONE mile or more each day and post your mileage in the comments here: DAY 1. It started June 15th. If you miss Day One, Two, or day 30, who cares. That’s not as important as getting started and keeping the motivation going.

You and I may have missed the boat for the start of this particular challenge, but the year is still young! You can join Darren Hardy, along with THOUSANDS of others committing to consistency…consistently running or walking at least ONE mile and posting it for accountability with #RavenRun.

Running/walking ONE mile a day for 90 days not for you?

Let’s make it even more simplistic. I challenge you to challenge yourself in not going a mile today, but Prioritizing Physical Activity ONE day a week, for 6 weeks. That’s it! The Active-Dad ONE DAY A WEEK Challenge. One day a week, you choose the day, you choose the activity for 60 minutes. You can raise the bar if you want to, but that’s up to you. In fact, it’s all up to you! Start with ONE DAY!

Garden for an hour, walk for an hour, ride your bike for an hour, push the lawn mower for an hour, go fishing for an hour…any activity that doesn’t put you on the couch for an hour, go do it!

Weekend Warrior circle

If the only day you think you can pull this off is on the weekend, join the Weekend Warrior Circle and challenge yourself ONE Saturday every week, to Prioritize Physical Activity. Have your family hold you accountable by scheduling a family bike ride every Saturday. Biking not your thing? You chose the Physical Activity or let your family weigh in!

Every Sunday since the summer has begun, I have committed to my family to take a hike somewhere, and I my wife has taken full control over the destination. She’s happy because we’re out of the house, my daughter’s happy because she has her hiking stick, my son’s happy because I’m carrying him the whole way, and I’m happy because we’re hitting the ACTIVE-DAD TriFecta; 1) Outdoors, 2) Prioritizing Physical Activity and 3) Together Spending Quality Time.

IT’S YOUR TURN!

Commit To The Challenge!

One Day A Week

60 Minutes of Activity

Nobody can do it for you. But your family CAN help. Invite your family in on your plans so the can help you keep accountable. Nothing is more motivating than your four year old daughter being disapponted in for not keeping you word.

Also check out Darren Hardy and his book The Compound Effect.

Stay Motivated! Stay Healthy!

You Have All The Time You Need! 2 Paths to Prioritizing Physical Activity.

Time, is it on your side? It’s simply mathematics, er…. Elementary my dear dads! Well, according to George S. Clason (author of The Richest Man In Babylon) “As for time, all men have it in abundance.”. Words to remember when you are telling yourself, or whoever else you are trying to convince, “I just don’t have time”. I mean, who are you to argue with the late great Clason!

I get that comment all the time. I don’t argue. I don’t try to convince them otherwise, “because a man convinced against his will, is of the same opinion still.”.

I am just full of useful quotes today! Keep reading and find out! 😉

Basic Dad Path A: Morning Duty

You wake up at 6:30 a.m. You take about 30 to 45 minutes to get ready for work (sometimes you shower, sometimes you’re just generous with the Deo). You get the kids ready, feed them (another 30 minutes), drop them off on your way to work. HOPEFULLY you get to drop them off at the one location, otherwise, drop off is a hot mess.  You make it to work between 8:15 – 8:30 a.m.

To Prioritize Physical Activity, Skip to Active-Dad SUPERCHARGED Path A

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What Happened To “New Year, New Me!”?!?!

So you had a complete derailment of your physical activity goals for 2020. If you were like the countless of Americans that went through the whole “New Year, New Me” train of thought or were merely switching up your routine, and were actually STICKING TO IT, having your fitness center shutdown for 2+ months definitely threw a wrench in your plans.

Let me tell you, I was right there with you. No home gym to speak of. Two resistant bands and THAT’S IT!

What did you do?

With all sincerity, I am asking because I am curious. How did you respond to these Lemony Snicket’s Series of Unfortunate Events? COMMENT, COMMENT, COMMENT…below.

I had a plan. Boy, did I have a plan for 2020. I was WELL on my way to realizing that plan. In January, I was serious about Intermittent Fasting (I.F.). I started with a four-hour eating window in January. Each month, I decrease my eating window by one hour. So, a three-hour eating window in February, followed by a two-hour eating window in March…then came APRIL.

Follow the journey here, If you STILL Haven’t Started, Just SHUT UP Already!

Back That Thang UP!

But let’s back it up. In mid-March, Maryland’s government officials shut down all the fitness facilities. I kindof saw the writing on the wall before hand. So true to form, I overloaded my workouts and skipped rest days once I caught a whiff of the possibility of my facility closing. I do this when my Spidey-Sense tells me there may be a change in my “normal” routine. Could this be a form of anxious energy?

When my wife was pregnant (And yes, I mean my wife, not “We”. Dudes that say WE get on my nerves.) with our second child and we were anticipating his arrival, I went absolutely BESERK with my workout plan. I would workout 7 days, 14 days, even 21 DAYS straight before I took a rest day. I literally had my body tell me, “You taking a break, punk!” and would fully exhaust myself before I took a rest day. A little over the top, likely unnecessary, yes! But that is how I dealt with the stress and the uncertainty of not knowing what was in store for the future.

SPOILER ALERT!

It all worked out. Once you and your wife commit to finding a way to Prioritize Physical Activity, it’s a wrap! But Fellas, GAIN BUY IN! I’m being as serious as can be. My kids gravitate to their mom, in a clingy way that they do not necessarily do to me, at least not as frequently. So, if YOU want to Prioritize Physical Activity, first, make sure SHE gets a chance to prioritize whatever SHE wants to prioritize.   

As my body has gotten older, it has become increasingly more difficult to maintain a certain Body Mass Index (BMI). I have found that eating the same way I did in my 20’s, requires an EXPONENTIAL amount of energy to burn in order to maintain a fair BMI. Basically, I cannot do what I did in my 20’s (eat, drink, and workout) and expect to still be sexy (for my wife 😊). I am 35 years old now. 

IN COMEs A VIRUS

So when COVID-19 decided to visit the U.S., I knew in the back of my head, things were about to change. So, I GOT BUSY! I did everything in my power to hit up the gym everyday in March. So when the gym shuttered their doors, I didn’t feel as though I was left in the wind. I also signaled to my wife to do the same.

Back to WHAT DID YOU DO?

When your fitness center closed and the commitment(s) you made, likely to yourself, what did you do? COMMENT, COMMENT, COMMENT…below.

Did you decide to stop holding yourself accountable because these circumstances were out of your control? Do you have a home gym? Were you able to use your home gym to stay on track? Do you have a home gym, but you lost motivation and your commitment waned? Did you take to the outdoors?

Full Transparency

On my end, during the brunt of 2020 COVID-19 season, I was away from home on traveling. That was fine by me. I am always ready to just go for a run or do calisthenics, or both.

My work duties took me away from my family (Check out Family Day EVERYDAY) and I spent a lot of time in hotels. These hotels were in counties where Fitness Centers were also ordered to close. Surprisingly enough, upon incessant requests, they were GRACIOUS enough to accommodate my request to “check out” dumbbells that were lying dormant in their fitness center.

Watch the video Hotel Review: DoubleTree Suites by Hilton Hotel Detroit Downtown – Fort Shelby | ACTIVE-DAD.

THIS. WAS. EPIC.

Supplement this light weight resistance training with making time to run til my heart’s content. I was well on my way to staying on track.

Because of my persistence to find a way , my goals of reducing my body fat percentage and inches on my hips were fully realized.  Your experience may have been different during this time, but I really want to know what YOUR experience is/was.

MOTIVES

While in these hotels, I spent some down time obviously sleeping, watching The First 48, and Prioritizing Physical Activity. I don’t have cable T.V. at home, so watching The First 48 is out of the norm. It’s a T.V. documentary series that explores violent crimes and how they are solved. In the show, detectives always try to establish a suspect’s motive. Why did they murder the individual?

Ok, so this may appear to be WAY in left field, but allow me to bring it back. Motives are important. Extremely important. Motive is defined as “something (such as a need or desire) that causes a person to act”. I think you can see where I am going with this.

I want to establish YOUR motive. If your motive was weak, once your Fitness Center was shut down, you shut down too. You scrapped your 2020 goal(s). You decided it was impossible to stay at home, work, help with day care, AND Prioritize Physical Activity. Difficult, heck yes, impossible…HECK NOW! That’s where your motive picks up the slack.

What’s the point?

If nothing else, 2020 has reminded us that some things are just out of your control. Some of us need no reminder. The Fickle Finger of Fate didn’t just single you out.

You can control your immediate surroundings, your environment. You can control who you allow in your house and who you socialize with. To the point, you also control your motives.

COVID-19 was not foreseeable or within your control. But, your response to it…that was ALL you. Were your motive strong enough, deep rooted enough to allow you to pivot?

This year is not over yet y’all. Despite what you may see on social media, we don’t get a do over.

I need you to do three things:

  1. Ask yourself, how are you going to respond the rest of 2020?
  2. Grab a paper and pen and write your answers down, with specifics (i.e. I am going to take a walk every other day for thirty minutes at 7:30 a.m.).
  3. DO IT!

Stay Motivated! Stay Healthy!

Aren’t You Tired Of Talking About It? | National Running Day

Very few things come as natural as running. Actually, I’ll name two others…crawling and walking. You have kids so you know what I’m talking about. As soon as they get a handle on walking, they find so much joy out of taking off and running, FOR NO APPARENT REASON! My three-and-a-half-year-old daughter will take off running in the Safeway grocery store. In Target. Close to streets! That’s terribly scary at times. But it comes so natural to her. But when it’s structured and under supervision, it’s so fun to watch, encourage and join in.

My one-year old son just got his legs under him. So, he’s not getting anywhere fast. But I know my son. He is mischievous. He is destructive, in ways his sister never was. Hence, his moniker Tiras The Tyrant.  I know he is going to be a runner. So, in the spirit of National Running Day (#NationalRunningDay), like many times before, I will be taking my little ones on a run. Tiras will be in one of my favorite ACTIVE-DAD go-tos, the B.O.B. Jogging Stroller (#BOBdads).

 The first Wednesday in June, people across the U. S. participate in National Running Day. It a good day for beginners to begin a life-changing commitment to running.

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How To Completely and Utterly FAIL! And Still WIN.

A goal was set for ACTIVE-DAD.com to attract 2,000 views in the first year. I now know this to be what Elite Blog Academy’s Founder Ruth Soukup calls a “Vanity Goal”, but a goal nonetheless. Thirteen months later, I FAILED! I came up short of 2,000 views. Just how much more did I fail? Let us count the ways.

I set additional goals:

  1. At least 1 blog post a week
  2. At least 2 Video post a week
  3. Build an audience of 999

FAIL! Succeed. FAIL Some More!!!

Based on the three goals set above…With 52 weeks in the year, 42 posts were published on ACTIVE-DAD.com (FAILED!) and 171 videos went live on YouTube (Succeeded). With no clear criteria set, no real way to quantify the “audience” was defined. Another Failure. One out of four ain’t bad, right?!?!

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If you STILL Haven’t Started, Just SHUT UP Already!

I may be hangry from my intermittent fasting or just irritable after working 21 straight nights, half of which were 12 hour shifts. Regardless, I am not mincing words. I am going all in!

The whole world has been ordered to Shelter In Place—of some form or another—by our governing officials. The majority of you have taken that ordinance and have decided to conveniently use that as your reason to DO NOTHING.  Let’s be honest, you didn’t really need an excuse. If it wasn’t this excuse, it would have been another. You see, you are FULL of excuses (among other things). No amount of “Work From Home” or “Free time” would have ever been sufficient for you to Prioritize Physical Activity. You know why, because it starts with YOU and YOU don’t really want to change. You are satisfied with being one of the 40% plus of males either overweight or obese. You are comfortable with your lifestyle as is. Well, It’s Time To Move Beyond Comfort! Being a dad is not your issue. Time is not your issue. YOU are your issue.

You can make excuses or you can make progress. You choose.

Brian Tracy
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A Stimulus Package That Will Make You Feel Good

I love sweat pants. They are arguably the most versatile, comfortable article of clothing ever made. EVER. I sleep in sweat pants, I run errands in sweat pants, and most importantly I PRIORITIZE PHYSICAL ACTIVITY in sweat pants. It’s no surprise when I say that a box of new sweat pants are enough to get me revved up about physical activity, or any activity for that matter. My stimulus package came early! You are overdue a stimulus package this quarter. Instead of waiting for your federal stimulus package, go out and get yours!

“You don’t have to be a gym rat or a marathoner to get health benefits from exercise.”

Unknown

Make Your Own Stimulus Package

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